Females In The Workplace - Why Are We So Quick To Judge Each Other?

I’ve just finished watching The Defiant Ones on Netflix, and afterwards,  a quote from Jimmy Iovine kept coming back to me. “Make fear a tailwind instead of a headwind.”  The reason it stood out for me is because it’s so incredibly relevant,  and has made me reflect on some really great conversations I have had recently.

Everyday I am privileged to talk to incredibly smart and inspiring people - and recently I've had several conversations with  people about diversity and women in the workplace. After a weekend away with some incredible women I wanted to share my thoughts on women in the workplace, and specifically about how I think we need to do a better job at promoting each other.

Girls compete, women empower.

As females, I feel like we are our own worst enemies - and for some reason, we are particularly hard on each other. Too often we fall into the trap of criticising other women for parenting differently, for being successful, for being too ambitious, for choosing work over family, for choosing family over work. We just need to stop.

We don’t promote ourselves, we don’t lean in enough, we don’t back ourselves, and this is the part that should concern us the most - we don’t back each other. It’s like we’ve been conditioned unconsciously (or perhaps even consciously) to believe that there is a limited amount of space for successful women, and if we want to be in that select group, we need to behave in a certain way, and once we’re in that spot, we do everything we can to fiercely protect our position  – from other women.

Being Successful Without Pulling Each Other Down.

Because this is a subject that is so important to me, I  choose to work in an environment where I have a female leader who is committed to creating success for all of those around hers. She measures her success by the amount of success she enables others to experience. Let’s stop and think about this for a minute: Imagine if this was the norm  – If we measured our own success as females not by the achievements of the women of history – but by the legacy we create for other women in the future?

If we ponder this idea for a minute, do we think it changes our reality enough? Imagine instead if we all used our skill, our voice, and our time and energy to advocate for, and lift up other women..

Our story would change if instead of competing,  we spent time telling each other’s stories, celebrating each other success and ultimately creating more opportunity and space for other women to step up instead of fiercely protecting our patches.

If you have been fortunate enough to work alongside amazing women who are already doing this I would love to hear your stories and even better maybe take the opportunity to give them a shout!